Human Nature

What's the deal with us as people any way? What, in fact, is our nature? Are we individuals who, when born, grow to make our own choices and decisions based on our self-interest as Thomas Paine suggested? Or are we more compelled to build on our need to come together, establish rules and guidelines, and embrace entities that govern our behavior and leaders that guide us as Edmund Burke observed?  Of the two, which one best defines our innate characteristics that best captures our preferences as living creatures and determines how we most comfortably engage with each other and, ultimately, coexist?


Looking at the two options, is it possible that both comprise our fundamental nature? If so, wouldn't that be something! If the case, then it suggests we are a walking-talking bundle of internal conflict driven by our own interests and needs while seeking to conform with the directives and visions of others. If so, then our nature is one of sharp contradiction. How fascinating! How maddening! Given that, it is a wonder any of us are able to connect with others as well as dwell comfortably within our own skins. Somehow, of course, this is exactly what each of us does every single day: blend in yet follow our own path.  


Given such a reality, is it any wonder that communication remains a constant struggle for all of us? Generally, we recognize others want to do their own thing, yet prefer they embrace our perspectives in order for us to better "get along." Perhaps what separates the misfits of society from the majority that confirms to its parameters is one's ability to cope with the contradictory elements within our nature. Communication, I believe, is a key aspect in helping bridge this gap. How and what we communicate can help all of us contend with this fundamental struggle that defines us. That being said, of course, does not make it an easy challenge to meet.