Clothes shopping, at least for me, is not something that comes all that easily. Yes, I recognize the need to wear clothes just as I enjoy wearing things that I consider to be attractive and give me much-needed help to look halfway decent. At the same time, it is not something I look forward to doing all that much. Also, it is not always as easy as one might expect. One would think, for instance, that all brands of shirt marked "large" would fit the same. (That is the size I normally gravitate toward.) This is not the case. Not even close. Where a "large" in one brand might fit perfectly, I would need to wear the same shirt in a different brand in an "extra large." Go figure.
The result of this phenomenon, though ill logical, is not all that unusual. This is why it is good idea to try everything on before leaving the store with it. There is no guarantee everything is the right fit regardless of how it is labeled or looks. This is why it is a good idea to date someone a while before marrying them. Emotionally, it is a good idea to make sure you and they are compatible before agreeing to "go home" forever together. Given that the divorce rate in the United States is approximately 50 per cent, it would suggest we as a people are not as good at determining who or what is a good fit as we should be.
Not surprisingly, one of the key criteria for determining whether another is a proper fit is found in the area of communication. Are we respectful? Do we listen well? Are we patient? Do we appreciate that not all efforts to communicate are perfect? If the answer to these and similar questions fall heavily into the "no column," then the chances are we and another may not be as a good of a fit as we need to be to be a lasting twosome. It is important to apply these questions to ourselves rather just the other person. Being the right fit requires effort on both parties. This is why I would probably fit into more "large" shirts if I did a better job of losing weight.
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