Being Confident

Being confident is a great feeling. With such positive energy bubbling inside, it gives us a sense of inner strength that helps us step forward, speak out, make a decision, confront others, etc. Confidence gives us the kind of juice we all need to face up to or take on challenges that we might not otherwise want to deal with. Further, feeling genuinely confident is something that others often pick up on. They sense the firmness of our actions. They feel the kind of straight-ahead demeanor that comes from people who are confident. In many ways, others draw strength and, yes, confidence from others who are giving off confidence vibes. Everyone wins from when confidence is part of the mix.

But what happen when one is not feeling confident? Specifically, what happens when we are not experiencing that internal burst of strength and focused belief in our words and actions? What do we do when we are being called upon to communicate well, yet lack the confidence needed in order to help make a strong and lasting impression on others? Though tough to do, connecting with others is doable even if you are not feeling on top of the world. It starts with the words you are using. Are they accurate? Are they understandable? Do they speak to the interests of those with whom you are trying to reach? If they answer is "yes" to those questions, then you are on your way.

Speaking to others, regardless of the setting or circumstance, is a mechanical act. Much like, say, hitting a baseball or sewing, the more you practice the better you get. Speaking is no different. Knowing the mechanics is a confidence booster all by itself. If the actual words we are planning to use are the result of research and thought, then added to whatever mechanical ability we have makes our presentation, well, presentable. Confidence is often drawn from numerous sources. They can range from a dictionary to a video tape to another person. It is important for all of us communicators to tap into as many resources as they can. Collectively, they build on our confidence.