Self Expression

Not too long ago I heard one of the talking heads on television refer to the current generation as one of self expression. These men and women want to be heard; want to be able to articulate their views, feelings and attitudes about anything ranging from politics and entertainment to the latest in fashion and social issues. This is not a bad thing. It is important to speak out, especially in a government such as ours that ultimately draws its strength and viability from the ability and willingness of its citizens to speak out. This is why I applaud any one, including members of the so-called tea party or occupy movement, who are energized enough to go to rallies and town hall meetings to raise questions, challenge authority, and let it be known their concerns and hopes.

Self expression, however, is not always pretty, polite or even civil. Sometimes people are so hell-bent on expressing themselves that they come across as little more than single-minded bullies driven by anger and contempt for those with other perspectives. It is here where real problems occur. Passion fueled by little more than anger rarely begets positive results. Sadly, angry passion often feeds on itself and only seems to fuel more anger, feelings of self-righteousness, and disregard for the opinions of others. This kind of self expression runs counter to the principles of effective communication and, more importantly, to the core of democratic values. Further, this is why is it so important that it be tempered with a respect for others.

My sense is that one big reason a notable segment of our population seems so worked-up these days is because they do not feel they are being heard or listened to. Point taken. But to the many highly-charged passionate men and women that seem so visible these days, I urge you to keep your passion and ideals but not lose sight of the fact that the best movements are ones built on inclusion, the input of many, collaboration and consensus building, and partnerships. "My way or the highway" may sound good and strong, but in the long run it is no way to run a country or, on a smaller scale, live one's life. Speak out. Be heard. But don't forget to listen. It makes for better self expression.