"Relational Mojo"

Take a couple that generally is compatible. The two as individuals are decent and, normally, are very much committed to their union. But what happens when outside challenges seep into their relationship?  What happens when these outside forces begin diverting their focus away from each other? Instead of striving each day to strengthen their relationship, each one begins putting more and more of their energy on contending with the outside elements. The more their attention is directed away from their relationship, the less satisfied each feels with their partner - as if the partner is getting in the way of contending with those outside challenges.

In these times of the coronavirus and economic shortfalls, such a scenario is not all that far-fetched. Not only are many good people being stricken with the virus and are having to scramble to make economic ends meet, they are also finding themselves emotionally isolated as a direct result of having the stability of their worlds upset. It is one thing to be sailing in a ship when the waters are smooth, but quite another when those same waters become violent, unpredictable and life threatening. How are couples to cope? How they are to survive as twosomes? How are they to keep their union as perfect as possible?

There is no way, of course, that I have the wisdom to offer-up specific solutions to any couple currently sailing in rough waters triggered, in large part, by the coronavirus and the economic turmoil that has followed. Nevertheless, one point I will make here is that for those same couple to have any chance of righting their ships, they must jointly acknowledge their challenges. They must be willing to sit down and identify whatever tension they may be feeling as a couple. Once their problem has been outed, then it is easier to address. When it comes to dealing with problems, silence is not golden. Taking such action represents an active commitment to regaining their "relational mojo."