Young Bobby

Inspiration can come in many shapes and sizes and, at times, from the most unexpected sources. Most recently, my wife and I were out for a walk in one of the many lovely parks in Songdo, South Korea. Almost out of nowhere a young boy -  not more than ten years of age -  appeared beside us on his bicycle. He, too, was out enjoying the pleasant evening air. With he on his bike and we on our feet, the three of us quickly fell into conversation on a range of topics, including foods we liked, places we have seen, our families, and even education. The encounter lasted nearly an hour but could have easily gone on longer if all of has not needed to go back to our respective apartments for dinner.

I found the boy, who identified himself as Bobby, to be very pleasant, polite and inquisitive. Even though English was his second language, he was also quite articulate. But perhaps what I found most impressive about Bobby was what I call his "gentle thoughtfulness." Throughout our conversation, he displayed an important talent to engage, share and be a good partner. By that I mean he did not try to dominate our conversation or talk over us. In addition, Bobby's comments seemed designed to complement and build on what was being said as opposed to simply ignore it. Throughout our interaction, young Bobby exhibited a desire to raise the level of the conversation - talk with rather than at.

Bobby, of course, is not the first person this skill. Nevertheless, when it comes to direct communication between individuals, he was a great reminder of the benefit that comes with recognizing the value of positive encounters and then embracing the potential role we all play in that regard when encountering others. In all interactions, each of us has a responsibility to help bring out the best in others. If all participants are engaging and open, then the conversation - no matter the topic or tone - can be positive even when there is disagreement.